WHEN LOVE TURNS DESTRUCTIVE, SEE IT FOR WHAT IT REALLY IS
The word “narcissist” is everywhere these days.But in our context — in our homes, our culture, our marriages — most people are not looking for a diagnosis. Nobody is sitting in a psychiatrist’s office trying to understand a clinical disorder. People are simply trying to survive hurtful, selfish, cruel, and destructive behaviour that is breaking families, crushing confidence, and leaving deep emotional wounds. And that behaviour is becoming frighteningly common.So let’s tell the truth plainly: Some people behave in ways that are harsh, controlling, manipulative, and emotionally dangerous.They ignore your feelings.They twist stories.They punish you for speaking the truth.They blame you for what they’ve done.They charm in public and wound in private.They use fear, silence, or emotional chaos to keep control.They show no empathy, even when they’ve clearly hurt you. You don’t need a clinical label for that. You just need to recognise it. In many marriages, this behaviour is so normalised that people begin to doubt themselves. They ask:“Maybe it’s me?”“What did I do wrong?”“Why can’t I make this work?” But here is the truth — and I say it with love: Someone else’s cruelty is not your fault.Someone else’s selfishness is not your burden.Someone else’s lack of empathy is not your responsibility to fix. And when behaviour becomes emotionally damaging — or even physically dangerous — the name we give it doesn’t matter.What matters is that it is real, it is harmful, and it must be seen clearly. Seeing the signs with fresh eyes You may be dealing with destructive behaviour if you notice consistent patterns like: You don’t need to diagnose this.You need to recognise it. Because awareness is the first step out of confusion. Why this behaviour is so spiritually and emotionally destructive When someone constantly tears down your sense of self, you lose: And God’s Word says clearly: “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” — Proverbs 4:23 This is not about religion.It’s about wisdom.About protecting your emotional, spiritual, and physical wellbeing. No one is called to stay in chaos, cruelty, or violence. So what do you do when someone behaves like this? Here is the path towards clarity and strength: 1. Stop overexplaining yourself You cannot reason your way into someone else’s empathy. 2. Set firm boundaries Not to punish them — but to protect you. 3. Stop trying to change them You did not break them.You cannot fix them. 4. Protect your peace and your mental stability Your clarity is your lifeline.Chaos is the environment where harmful behaviour thrives. 5. Reach out for support Safe people. Professional guidance.You are not meant to walk through this alone. 6. And most importantly: Guard your heart. Your life depends on it.Your future depends on it.Your children’s wellbeing depends on it. You are not crazy. You are not imagining it. And you are not alone. Many people are waking up to the reality that what they’ve been calling “conflict” is actually harm.What they thought was “marriage struggle” is actually emotional destruction.What they assumed was “normal” is actually deeply unhealthy and unsafe. And once you see it, you cannot unsee it. There is a path forward — and you don’t have to walk through confusion, separation, or divorce without support. YOUR NEXT STEPS FOR HEALING, CLARITY & WISDOM **📘 1. Need deeper strategy and support? Enroll in The Divorce & Narcissistic Abuse Strategy Course**🔗 https://healingwomenshearts.app.clientclub.net/courses/offers/22f138b1-5563-445a-9971-ede5ddae1280 **🧭 2. Need personal coaching as you go through separation or divorce? UBUNTU Marital Separation & Divorce Transition Coaching**🔗 https://shiberoa.wixsite.com/shiberorakatsa **📖 3. My Book — This Is Not Love For deeper insight and understanding**🔗 Shibero.com Bookshop: https://shibero.com/online-shop/Also available on Amazon.com
Read MoreARE YOU GOING THROUGH MARITAL SEPARATION OR DIVORCE? MY STORY
My Story I went through my own separation in 2006, completing the divorce in 2015. I know firsthand what it’s like to experience the emotional pain, anger, and fear that occur during divorce. I have been right where you are. Divorce was something I never thought about or even contemplated, but it can happen to anyone. It happened to me. It was the biggest, most shocking, and difficult life-changing experience. It tore my family apart, bringing intense feelings of great pain and destruction. This article shares the gems I learned about the emotional rollercoaster of separation and divorce. If you can understand this process, it will help you minimise the impact on yourself and your children. While for some people, separation and divorce are a relieving end to an abusive, extremely toxic, or unhappy marriage, for others, the disintegration of the relationship and the divorce itself can cause deep psychological distress, especially anxiety and depression that can affect your ability to move forward after the final legal process. My worst nightmare became a reality after having pondered over the decision to leave the marriage for eight years. Even though it had been coming for a while, I was still thrown onto that emotional rollercoaster when my ex had to leave. It was like learning how to ice skate—jam-packed with emotions! You may be in this place now, whether you were forced to leave, your spouse left without you, or they brought in another partner. Whatever the case, you are now on the emotional rollercoaster. Overwhelming Pain This is very normal. Your marriage just died, and you’re overwhelmed with emotions that you cannot describe. You have to learn how to best deal with these emotions because, with the intensity of your pain, it’s very easy to lose sight of the result: getting through the divorce process and minimising the impact on your children. It is essential to be aware of your emotions and their underlying causes. Understanding your emotions while this is happening will help you get a grip on your thoughts and release them in a more controlled manner, as opposed to defaulting to emotional outbursts. This doesn’t mean that you hide your feelings; you just learn to control them in a way that doesn’t further fuel your already raw emotions. Specific Emotions You May Experience Even though I had initiated the separation and divorce, I went through all manner of feelings: fear, hurt, feeling rejected, confused, unloved, relief, resentment, anger, doubt, guilt… plenty of guilt and disappointment. Many times at night, I’d cry myself to sleep away from our daughter. I remember that inner feeling of paralysis—going through the motions of each day, with a young child who needed to be cared for. I was always wearing a paper-thin mask of ‘being okay’ to present to the world, while inside I was so broken. Yet, I had to keep going when all I wanted to do was curl up in a corner and go to sleep. I was overflowing with the following emotions that are common and natural to those going through marital separation: 💡 The Path Forward: Finding Your New Normal Understanding these emotions is the first step toward reclaiming your power. You are not defined by the pain or the failure of the marriage. These emotions are valid responses to a major trauma, but they do not have to control your future. 1. Seek Professional Help: Do not carry this burden alone. Find a therapist, coach, or support group that specialises in divorce and trauma. Professional guidance provides the tools to manage anxiety, process grief, and break free from destructive emotional cycles. 2. Focus on What You Can Control: You cannot control your ex-spouse’s actions, but you can control your reactions, your self-care, and the stability of your home environment. Shift your focus daily to the positive actions you can take for yourself and your children. 3. Prioritise Your Children’s Stability: Minimise conflict exposure and ensure your children feel safe and loved, regardless of where they are. Modelling controlled emotional responses teaches them resilience. 4. Rebuild Your Identity: Divorce strips away the identity of “spouse.” This is your chance to rediscover who you are as an individual—your passions, your strengths, and your purpose. Healing is a journey, not a destination. It is about moving from surviving to thriving. 🛠️ Get the Support You Need Today You do not have to navigate this complicated journey of high-conflict divorce, emotional recovery, and co-parenting alone. These resources are designed to help you rebuild your life and emerge stronger.
Read MoreGet Out of Victim Mode. Only YOU CAN Break Your Cycle of Abuse.
Abuse, in any form, thrives in darkness and silence. When we choose to endure disrespect—whether it is verbal, emotional, or physical—we tragically participate in maintaining the very prison that holds us. The hardest truth to swallow is this: Your silence fuels their disrespect. . It is not a judgment, but a painful reality. When an abuser meets silence or compliance, the pattern is reinforced. Their control is solidified not by their power, but by the quiet, daily erosion of your self-worth. This learned compliance, this passive acceptance of mistreatment, is the deepest form of self-betrayal. The Heavy Weight of Self-Betrayal The greatest internal challenge is the “victim mode”—the feeling that you are utterly powerless and that enduring the known pain is safer than facing the unknown freedom. This mode keeps you trapped because it makes the outside world look more terrifying than the current nightmare. But we must speak honestly about the cost of staying. Every day spent enduring disrespect, hoping it will stop, is a day you are essentially telling yourself, “I deserve this.” Staying doesn’t lead to rescue; it leads to a slow, incremental death of the spirit. You become a stranger to yourself, buried under layers of shame, trauma, and fear. Speak Your Truth: The Boundary That Changes Everything The only way out is to shatter the illusion of powerlessness. The journey out of abuse begins with one terrifying, necessary step: Speak Your Truth. This is not a confrontation. It is an act of establishing an unshakeable boundary for your own soul. It is the declaration that says: “No, I will not accept abuse.” You are validating your own reality after potentially years of being told you are “too sensitive” or “crazy.” Speaking your truth can be subtle: a conversation with a therapist, a letter written but never sent, or finally acknowledging to a trusted friend what is truly happening. This act shatters the abuser’s control and is the first powerful step in reclaiming the dignity that was stolen from you. The Decision: Walk Away and Reclaim Your Worth For your own sanity and survival, you must find the strength to walk away and reclaim your worth. You must understand that leaving is not a failure; it is the ultimate act of self-preservation. It is summoning the courage to face the fear of the unknown, trusting that any future built on freedom is better than a life built on abuse. The person you were before the abuse began—the person full of hope and dignity—is still waiting for you. Walking away is an act of fierce self-love that declares: I deserve safety, respect, and a future of my own design. Your Season of Rebirth It is essential to remember that while countless people and organisations can offer support and resources, the final, decisive action rests entirely with you. There is hope, but only you can do this. Reclaiming your life is a deeply personal act of resurrection. It requires you to consciously step out of the inertia of victimhood and into the power of choice. You are not powerless; you are a survivor on the verge of becoming a builder. Let this be your call to action. Take the lesson from the silence, shatter the wall, and begin the difficult, worthwhile journey of rebuilding a life that honours your true self. The light of dignity is waiting for you on the other side. If you are reading this, let this be your call to action. Take the lesson from the silence, shatter the wall, and begin the difficult, worthwhile journey of rebuilding a life that honours your true self. The light of dignity is waiting for you on the other side. Ready to start your journey today?
Read MoreThe Emotional Whiplash of Separation & Divorce
You Don’t Have to Go Through This Alone I went through my own separation in 2006 and completed my divorce in 2015. I know firsthand what it feels like to face the emotional pain, anger, and fear that come with divorce. I have been right where you are. Divorce is something I never thought about, but it can happen to anyone—and it happened to me. It was the biggest, most shocking, and life-changing experience. It tore my family apart and brought intense feelings of pain and loss. This article shares the lessons I learned about the emotional rollercoaster of separation and divorce. Understanding this rollercoaster can help minimize the impact on yourself and your children. The Emotional Rollercoaster While some people find relief in ending a toxic marriage, for others, the breakup can cause deep psychological distress—anxiety, depression, and overwhelming fear about the future. Even when divorce seems inevitable, it can still feel like a nightmare. I felt this myself when my ex left, even after eight years of contemplating the decision. It was like learning to ice skate—slipping, stumbling, and bracing for impact, all packed with emotions. Whether you were forced to leave, left by your spouse, or faced betrayal, you are on this rollercoaster now. Overwhelming Pain It’s normal to feel intense emotions when your marriage ends. Your first task is to acknowledge your feelings, understand their origin, and learn to release them in a controlled manner. This doesn’t mean hiding your feelings—it means learning to process them without fueling further pain. Specific Emotions You May Experience Even if you initiated the separation, you may experience: Guilt and Shame: Guilt for ending the marriage, for failing to save it, or for the impact on your children. Shame because of societal stigma or the feeling that your family “failed.” Fear and Anxiety: Worry about finances, custody, living arrangements, and your children’s well-being. Fear of losing control or being treated unfairly. Anger and Revenge: Anger at betrayal, abandonment, or the investment of time and love that was not reciprocated. This may manifest as passive withdrawal or intense rage. Other Emotions: Hurt, confusion, relief, resentment, doubt, disappointment—sometimes all at once, especially at night when you are alone with your thoughts. Spiritual Encouragement “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” — Psalm 34:18 Even in the darkest times, you are not alone. Lean on God for strength and guidance: Allow yourself to grieve, but also trust that healing is possible. Each small step forward is progress. Moving Forward Recovery is not just about surviving; it’s about rebuilding your life with dignity, hope, and a sense of purpose. With the right support, you can: Take the First Step Today You don’t have to walk this path alone. My Ubuntu Dignified Divorce & Separation Journey is 12 program that gently guides you from the start of separation to a place of renewed hope and confidence. Through practical tools, spiritual guidance, and supportive community, you will: Learn more. Visit our website at: https://shiberoa.wixsite.com/shiberorakatsa “He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.” — Psalm 147:3
Read MoreWhy African Churches Need to Engage in African Mental Health First Aid (AMHFA)
Mental Health in Africa: A Silent Epidemic Affecting Our Churches Depression is one of the most pressing public health crises in Africa, affecting an estimated 100 million people, with 66 million of them being women. Many of these individuals are active members of churches, yet they remain silent about their struggles due to stigma, fear, and misconceptions surrounding mental illness. The purpose of the existence of AMHFA is to reduce the numbers of people affected by depression, through mental health (depression) awareness,education, prevention and management of it and selfcare. AMHFA is not clinical. It is for everyone in the community, who needs to support breaking the stigma of mental ill health, thus normalising talk on mental health. It shouldnt be a taboo subject as it has been for a long time In both rural and urban churches, mental health is rarely spoken about, and when it is, it is often misunderstood. Instead of being treated as a real condition—like any other medical illness—it is frequently labeled as:❌ A generational curse❌ A demonic attack❌ A sign of spiritual weakness As a result, millions of people in our churches are suffering in silence, afraid of being judged, blamed, or excluded. Many turn to deliverance ministries because mental illness is seen as a spiritual battle rather than a health issue. While spiritual support is important, it is not a substitute for knowledge, self-care, and resilience-building skills. AMHFA is NOT in Competition with the Church—It is About Empowering and Equipping People African Mental Health First Aid (AMHFA) is not here to challenge faith, replace spiritual beliefs, or teach counseling skills. It is a practical, accessible approach for EVERYONE—not just professionals or counselors. We are teaching people to “fish” rather than keeping them dependent on others for their healing. By integrating AMHFA, both rural and urban churches can:✅ Break the stigma and fear around mental health so people feel safe to seek help.✅ Teach mental wellness, self-care, and community support—equipping people with everyday tools to maintain their mental well-being.✅ Empower church leaders and congregants to recognize signs of distress early and offer support without judgment.✅ Shift from dependency on leadership to self-empowerment—helping people take charge of their mental health the same way they would with physical health. We must normalize mental health the same way we talk about physical health. If someone breaks a leg, we don’t tell them to pray it away—we encourage them to get medical care. The same should apply to depression, anxiety, and other mental health challenges. It’s Time to Break the Stigma—Mental Wellness is for Everyone For too long, mental illness has been treated as a mystery, a spiritual failure, or a punishment. This must change. The church must take the lead in breaking the silence, reducing fear, and providing real support. This is because the Church is in a postion to. AMHFA is for everyone—regardless of background, education, or role in the church. It is not about training counselors—it is about equipping communities with mental health resilience and self help skills, so that they can help themselves and support one another. By embracing AMHFA, churches can play a pivotal role in reducing the prevalence of depression, improving mental wellness, and strengthening individuals and families in both urban and rural areas. Conclusion: The Church as a Place of Healing, Not Fear The goal of African Mental Health First Aid is simple: to equip, educate, and empower the church to become a safe place where people can heal—not a place where they fear judgment, stigma, or isolation. This is the beginning of a journey where churches take the lead in saying:🔹 Mental health matters—for both rural and urban communities.🔹 Mental illness is not a mystery—it is real, treatable and okay to talk about it.🔹 Seeking help is not weakness—it is wisdom.🔹 AMHFA is about empowering the communities on mental health awareness in so doing breaking the stigma of mental ill health which is a human rights issue in Africa due to the treatment of any kind of mental disorder. It is not about replacing any roles and responsibilities of the Church.
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Time for African churches to STOP Fearing Mental Health and Start Addressing It.
For generations, African churches have been central to spiritual and communal life, offering hope, guidance, and support. Yet, when it comes to mental health, silence and stigma prevail. Many believers facing depression, anxiety, or trauma are met with judgment instead of understanding. It’s time for the church to break free from fear and take action. The Fear That Fuels Silence In many African faith communities, mental illness is often misunderstood. It is frequently attributed to a lack of faith, sin, or even demonic possession. This belief isolates those who suffer, leaving them to battle their struggles alone, afraid to seek help. Common responses include: While faith is essential, mental health issues are real, medical, and psychological conditions that require more than prayer alone. The Problem with Over-Reliance on Pastoral Counseling When congregants face emotional distress, many pastors immediately turn to pastoral counseling—if they respond at all. While there is a place for pastoral support, not all emotional struggles are spiritual struggles. Mental health requires more than prayers from the pulpit; it calls for understanding, self-awareness, and practical support. Pastors must move beyond just prayer and embrace empowering their congregations to recognize, understand, and support one another. Healing often starts by knowing what one is experiencing—without the added layers of fear and spiritual noise. The Truth About Mental Health Mental illness is not a sign of spiritual weakness. Science and faith can coexist—just as the church embraces doctors for physical illnesses, it must embrace mental health professionals for emotional and psychological well-being. Depression, anxiety, and trauma are not just personal struggles; they are community struggles. Poverty, violence, and societal pressures all contribute to poor mental health. Ignoring this reality only deepens the crisis. The Church’s Role in Breaking the Stigma The African church has the power to lead the mental health conversation rather than avoid it. By acknowledging and addressing mental health, churches can create safe spaces for healing and growth. Here’s how: Promote Self-Care – Teach congregants how to manage chronic stress, build resilience, and learn how to support one another, removing the dependence on prayer by elders and pastors. Educate Congregations – Normalize mental health discussions in sermons and teachings. Equip Leaders – Train pastors and church staff in African Mental Health First Aid to recognize, and break the stigma, self-care, understand mental wellness from a place they can easily relate to and finally break stigma and community support for struggling individuals. Faith & Mental Health Must Go Hand in Hand Jesus ministered to the sick and brokenhearted, not with judgment, but with compassion. Churches must follow His example by offering understanding, support, and real solutions. 📢 It’s time for African churches to stop fearing mental health and start addressing it. 📩 Take action today. Contact us to learn how your church can lead the change Contact us at: spht@shibero.trust.com Visit us at: www.shiberotrust.org www.shibero.com
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The African Church Can No Longer Ignore Mental Health—It’s Time to Act
For millions across Africa, the church is more than a place of worship—it is a refuge, a source of guidance, and a pillar of hope. However, when it comes to mental health, many churches remain silent. The stigma, misconceptions, and cultural taboos surrounding mental illness often leave congregants without support, forcing them to suffer in silence. This has to change. The Church’s Unique Position The African church is uniquely positioned to address mental health challenges within communities. Faith plays a significant role in many people’s lives, providing strength in times of distress. Yet, while churches nurture spiritual well-being, they often neglect mental wellness, treating it as a separate issue—or worse, as a spiritual failing. Many pastors and church leaders are the first responders when someone is in crisis. However, due to a lack of training and the prevalence of outdated beliefs, their response is often limited to prayer alone. While prayer is powerful, it is not a substitute for understanding, support, and action. The Stigma Within Churches In many African churches, mental illness is wrongly attributed to sin, curses, or demon possession. This not only isolates those who are struggling but also creates a culture of fear and shame. As a result, many believers hide their struggles, unwilling to speak about their anxiety, depression, or trauma for fear of being judged or ostracized. The common phrase “Just pray about it and have faith” is often used as a response to mental distress. While faith is important, healing requires a balance between spiritual and psychological care. Seeking professional help is not a sign of weak faith—it is a step toward holistic healing. Mental Health First Aid for Churches Mental Health First Aid (AMHFA) is not about turning pastors into therapists. It is about equipping congregations with the knowledge and tools to: By integrating mental health awareness into church teachings and programs, churches can create safe spaces where people feel heard, valued, and supported. A Call to Action The global church is slowly waking up to the reality that mental health issues are just as urgent as physical illnesses. The African church must do the same. Scripture calls us to care for the brokenhearted: Jesus himself ministered to the sick and suffering—not just physically, but emotionally and mentally as well. As His followers, the church must follow His example. Moving Forward Together Mental health is not just a medical or psychological issue—it is a community issue. Churches can be places of healing, offering not just spiritual guidance but also education, understanding, and support for mental wellness. The silence must end. It’s time for churches in Africa to rise and lead the conversation on mental health. By doing so, they will not only break the stigma but also fulfil their mission to provide holistic care for their congregations. Let’s build churches where faith and mental well-being go hand in hand.
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Breaking the Cycle: Addressing the Mental Health Crisis in African Schools
Breaking the Cycle: Addressing the Mental Health Crisis in African Schools In classrooms across Africa, a silent crisis is unfolding. Behind the desks and textbooks are students grappling with emotional and behavioural challenges that often go unnoticed or ignored. The truth is stark: 40% of African students experience emotional and behavioural problems, many of which are directly linked to the stressors within school environments. The Root of the Problem For many children, schools are meant to be safe havens—a place to learn, grow, and thrive. However, the realities are far from ideal in some schools, particularly non-private institutions such as government-funded schools. Overcrowded classrooms, limited resources, and overwhelmed educators have created an environment where abuse and neglect can fester. Disclaimer: While abuse is a prevalent issue in some non-private schools, it is important to note that not all institutions face these challenges. Many educators and leaders are doing exceptional work despite limited resources. The Invisible Toll The consequences of this mental health crisis are profound: The Role of Educator Leaders Schools mirror the leadership at their helm. Educators and school leaders have a unique responsibility to create environments where students feel valued, supported, and empowered. But this requires action—intentional, systemic action. What Can Be Done? A Call to Action Schools are more than institutions for academic learning; they are ecosystems where futures are shaped. Every act of indifference, every unchecked label, and every neglected cry for help contributes to the growing crisis of mental ill health in African students. It’s time for school leaders to step up. Addressing mental wellness in schools is not optional—it’s a moral and social imperative. Join Us in Building Mentally Healthy Schools At African Mental Health First Aid (AMHFA), we empower educator leaders with the tools to break cycles of abuse, manage stress effectively, and create schools where students and teachers thrive. Together, we can rewrite the narrative and build schools that heal rather than harm. Let’s transform Africa’s schools into spaces of hope, resilience, and growth.
Read MoreWhy Africa Needs Its Own Mental Health First Aid(AMHFA): Time for Own Our Solutions
“Enough of Being Given Fish. We Shall Now Teach Ourselves to Fish“ For too long, Africa has relied on Eurocentric mental health models—programs and interventions that, while effective in their context, fail to address the unique realities of life on this continent. Imported solutions have been fed to us as the gold standard, and we have, knowingly or unknowingly, internalized this dependency. But it’s time to ask ourselves a crucial question: can we truly heal if the solutions we apply don’t speak our language, reflect our cultures, or align with our lived experiences? African Mental Health First Aid (AMHFA) is not just another program; it is a call to action. It challenges the status quo and offers a tailored, culturally rooted approach to addressing Africa’s mental health crisis. Here’s why AMHFA is different—and why it matters. 1. Cultural Relevance and Respect: A Model Built for Us Mental health models often overlook Africa’s diverse cultural traditions, spiritual beliefs, and community-centric way of life. They operate on individualistic principles that don’t resonate in societies where collective well-being takes precedence. AMHFA, on the other hand, is built from Africa’s own stories, struggles, and strengths. It respects and incorporates: 2. Community-Driven Healing: From Dependence to Empowerment In Africa, the strength of a community is its lifeline. Yet, many imported models are designed for isolated, individual therapy. AMHFA embraces the power of collective healing by training leaders, educators, and families to become first responders in their communities. By fostering peer support, shared learning, and communal responsibility, AMHFA moves us from dependency on external professionals to empowerment within our own networks. We must own this reality: Healing is within our hands, not in distant, inaccessible systems. 3. Breaking Stigma and Building Awareness: Addressing the Silence Stigma around mental health is a universal issue, but in Africa, it is deeply rooted in cultural taboos, myths, and a lack of understanding. Imported solutions often fail to navigate these complexities, leaving stigma untouched and the silence unbroken. 4. Prevention and Early Intervention: Acting Before Crisis Hits In a continent with the highest suicide rates globally, prevention is not optional—it is essential. Western models often focus on treatment after a crisis occurs, but AMHFA prioritizes prevention. We must own this urgency: Prevention is the most compassionate form of care. 5. Leveraging African Wisdom Africa has a deep connection to creativity and nature—expressed through music, dance, storytelling, and our spiritual ties to the land. AMHFA taps into these inherent strengths. These approaches resonate far more with African communities than Eurocentric one-on-one therapy models. We must own this identity: Our traditions hold the keys to sustainable healing. 6. Sustainable Solutions: Building Systems That Last Imported solutions often come and go, leaving little behind. AMHFA is different—it focuses on creating long-term change through: We must own this responsibility: Healing must be a legacy, not a fleeting intervention. A Call to Action: Africa, It’s Time to Lead Ourselves We have been led for too long by solutions that don’t fit. We have accepted systems that don’t understand us, and in doing so, we have perpetuated dependency. But AMHFA offers something different—a chance to reclaim ownership of our mental health narrative. AMHFA is built by Africans, for Africans. It is culturally relevant, community-driven, and deeply rooted in our traditions and values. It challenges us to look inward, to trust our strengths, and to create solutions that are not just effective but transformative. We must own this truth: Africa doesn’t need imported solutions. It needs solutions that speak its language, reflect its realities, and honour its stories. Are You Ready to Join the Movement? AMHFA is not just about addressing mental health; it’s about redefining how Africa heals. Together, we can create a future where mental wellness is woven into the fabric of our communities, workplaces, and schools. Let’s own it. Let’s lead it. Let’s heal. Contact AMHFA your Mental Wellness Needs www.shiberotrust.org Email:spht@shibero.com
Read MoreWomen Are More Prone to Low Self Esteem
Let’s Have a Real Chat, Ladies Grab our metaphorical cups of tea and sit down for some real talk. You know that nagging voice inside that whispers, “You’re not good enough,” “You can’t wear that,” or “Who do you think you’re fooling?” Sadly, a lot of us have been there. But ever wondered where this voice came from? The Deep Roots From the moment we’re born, society bombards us with mixed signals. As girls, we’re given dolls to care for, yet we’re also told to stand strong. As teenagers, we’re shown images of “perfect” bodies, and as adults, we’re often expected to juggle careers, homes, and families flawlessly. It’s a whirlwind, isn’t it? Why Are We So Vulnerable? It’s not just about the external world. As women, we’re often our own harshest critics. We internalize, overanalyze, and sometimes set impossibly high standards for ourselves. Empathy and Sensitivity: Often seen as our strength, our innate ability to empathize and be sensitive can sometimes make us more prone to absorbing negative feedback or being overly critical of ourselves. Comparisons: With the digital age, it’s become second nature to scroll through our feeds and compare our lives to others. But remember, what’s shown online is often a curated highlight reel, not the full story. Road to Empowerment Now that we’ve unraveled some roots, how do we counter them? Ladies, our journey is unique, and our battles are personal. But by understanding where our feelings stem from and actively countering them, we can rise, and be empowered and confident. Because you, yes YOU, are incredible just as you are. Let’s believe it, embrace it, and live it!
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